"Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong" - Mandy Hale
In a world where there are so many possibilities for an individual to gain any skills and become whatever it is they want to pursue, I have come across two types of people: those with a fixed mindset and those with a growth mindset. This is not just my finding though, you can find articles upon articles about this specific topic. But, I do want to bring to attention that self-limiting beliefs play a huge role in the people who tend to have fixed mindsets, learning is not about competency it is about trying to gain new skills. People with self-doubt usually are quick to judge themselves and place themselves into boxes, things they can do and things they just simply cannot.
It’s a dangerous thing, to limit yourself, and it takes time to try to escape the cage that you yourself have locked yourself in. Of course, there are some individuals who are surrounded by people who just try to keep them down, but the responsibility is on the individual to escape these types of people. The first step to escape a fixed mindset is by acknowledging the fact that you alone hold the responsibility for the way you feel, and the type of life you live. You can no longer blame or point a finger at someone else, nor can you assign the responsibility to keep yourself happy to someone else. This may seem scary, but in retrospect it will be one of the most freeing things you can ever experience.
Life is limitless, and there are more ways than one to do something. It is okay to feel lost, or to feel like you don’t know which path to take. People with a growth mindset know this. They understand that the responsibility to keep themselves happy and fulfilled belongs to them and them only. This means that they will do what it takes to keep themselves happy, and they will focus on growing and making the best out of every situation. In order to reach high levels of achievement and growth, they are willing to fail and then try over and over again. Those with a fixed mindset are either scared of failing or fail once and never try again. Those with a growth mindset do not believe that. It may be hard to try to adopt a mindset that allows you to push yourself to become whatever it is that you want to be, and this may be because you are scared of your own potential, and as crazy as that sounds, it’s true. The realization that you could be so much more, and maybe just maybe you could achieve your dreams is a scary realization. It forces you to acknowledge that you are not where you want to be, and that you definitely could be in a much happier place right now. But just because you aren’t there right now, doesn’t mean you can’t get there. You can. Anyone can, you just have to start counteracting that thought in your head that says you cannot. Start with affirmations, then start picking up hobbies that you were always interested in, start learning a language, start a blog. It doesn’t have to take you anywhere right now, but it’ll definitely help you grow.